Becoming more self-absorbed probably isn't going to solve your problems...
There are many books and articles written about how to improve your life. Many focus on changing what's going on inside your head. They want you to think more positively, change your inner conversation, and carefully examine your past. In general, they have one thing in common, they want you to become more self-absorbed. Life isn't simple, and I don't suggest you dismiss these suggestions completely. My own advice sometimes talks about changing what's going on in your mind. But keep these techniques in perspective.
Generally, focussing only on yourself and how you think isn't a great way to get ahead in life. It's those who focus on what's going on outside themselves that usually have the most success. People that win in relationships, business, money and life usually don't manage it by obsessing over every little thought that enters their heads. They can't, because they're too busy focussing on what's external to themselves - their family, their business, their finances and so on.
For most of us, what's missing in our lives isn't to be found on the inside. At least, the easiest things to fix aren't there. Instead they're in the people and environment around us. Rather than thinking "how can I change myself,?" be thinking "how can I change my situation?".
If your environment, body, finances and relationships are in good shape, you're much more likely to be feeling happy. If there's a problem with any of these factors, you can try changing the way you think until you're blue in the face with very little in the way of results.
Always be ready to question your own beliefs...
Something unfortunate happens to us with each year we spend on this planet. We gradually become convinced of the correctness of our ideas. We become arrogant in other words. Make peace with the certain fact that there are a great number of things that you are wrong about. Rather than twisting the evidence to fit your theory - twist your theory to fit the evidence.This habit can be one of the most difficult of all to develop, but it is also one of the most important.
